With wedding season in full swing, many of us are faced with some questions about what is required of us as friends of the bride/groom during all the wedding festivities. With showers, bachelorette parties, and the expanding popularity of destination weddings, I'm wondering how much is too much?
When I got married last Fall, I had two Bridal Showers, hosted by different people, and with completely separate guest lists. I went to see Britney Spears with three friends as a small bachelorette party, and also went out on the town locally with my sister and three friends one night as a small bachelorette celebration. I didn't want a destination bachelorette party, because I felt it was a lot to ask of my friends who aren't local. Some drove in for one of my showers and then again for the wedding (one friend even flew in from FL for my wedding). I was so grateful to them for traveling to celebrate the big day, I felt another destination bachelorette was overkill.
I'm now caught in a dilemma of sorts. I've been invited to a very close friend's wedding (which is a few hours north of my in Michigan, and I consider it to be a "destination wedding", because no one lives in this city. It's taking place at a resort in a small Northern Michigan town.), her shower, which is local, and now a destination bachelorette party. This bride was living out of state at the time of my wedding, but drove in for my shower and wedding. She stayed with her parents, as they live nearby. While I appreciate the effort to plan a fun "destination bachelorette party", am I required to attend? Its not the money I'd be spending that is causing me to pause. Its really combination of the group going on the weekend (not a group I know very well, and am not close with the girls I do know), and my feelings that this is a bit much to expect of people. Please let me know your thoughts! I want to be a supportive friend, and had even previously offered to host a small lingerie party for her at my home. She didn't take me up on it, which is fine, but I feel stuck here. I'm sure if I end up going, I'll have a fun time, but I feel uncomfortable with it for some reason.