As most of you know, I work in the Children's Department of a library. Part of my job is to work on the Reference Desk. Here, I assist children and their parents in finding materials and I also hand out computer time cards to kids who want to use our computer's. If there is a wait, they only get 30 minutes.
I encounter all types of families and all types of kids. Many kids have excellent manners. They say "please" and "thank you", and they look me in the eye when requesting some sort of assistance. The little ones are sometimes too shy to look at me, and are often prompted by their parents to say "thank you". I especially appreciate that, because I can see the parent teaching the child how to speak to an adult (even if they're feeling shy), and to remember their manners.
One thing I simply cannot tolerate is rude tweens! The girls sometimes have little attitude problems, but that is 99.9999% of the time directed at their mother's who have committed the cardinal sin of making them to their homework. Sometimes they're rude to me, which is annoying. See, when I was 12, I was really rude to my mother, but the librarian would never know it! See, I was always polite to strangers and people in authority, just not to my mom. Poor mom! She must have known that I'd grow out of it because each year when she went to parent-teacher conferences, she'd hear nothing except how sweet and well-mannered I was! ;)
The boys though? They have no shame! They come up to my desk, stick out their little hand and say, "Time card". I'll hand it to them and they say," ". Oh, yeah, they say nothing! They just turn and run over to the computer. A few repeat offenders are really starting to bother me. One came in today and tried to kick another kid off the computer. So I stepped in and told the little a-hole that he had to wait. He also has a girl's haircut, but I can't really judge on that. Well, I can, but I won't. The manners are my first concern.
I know my readers who are mothers have taught your children well. Your sons are probably well-mannered young men. And you daughters, if they are ever lippy (and I doubt they ever are!), it's only to you, and I promise it'll only last a few years! :) But what, if anything, is a lowly library employee to do?
My husband has wonderful manners (thank you MIL!)! He is more like this:Oh, I beg to differ.....
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