RHOC

I know I am a week behind with this episode. I don't even know what to say about Tamra's "Etiquette Party", so I'm not going to say anything at all about it right now! I'd rather write about Episode 7 where all the housewives attended a horse race at the Del Mar Race Track. I am disappointed in Tamra and Vicki's behavior! While I find it really entertaining, it was mean! This is why I've always loved Jeanna. She is the only truly classy one! Even in the midst of the drunken debauchery going on last week, she was quietly doing the right thing giving Gretchen water and trying to steer her in the right direction...away from Tamra! She was just a little classier.

Anyway, this episode really hit home for me. Recently, I've been going through some changes. Perhaps I'm growing up a bit and I'm starting to notice myself handling situations with my friends differently. I am starting to stand up for myself in a way I never have in the past and I'm not tolerating people treating me poorly.

This picture really says it all.

Lynne said at one point in this episode, "I'm just trying to be friends with these ladies. I don't know what their problem is." I feel you, Lynne! In my quest for true friendship, I attempted to get closer with a group of girls, one of whom is in my wedding. She's lovely and I've known her a while. She and I have a group of mutual friends, and she also has another group she hangs out with. Their husbands are all buddies and the girls have a book club. Only it seems I (and B by default) are not really welcome in this group. I received the message this Fall, and have since backed off. I'm over it now and have done much refection and realized that their snobbery really says more about them than it does about me. Now that I've accepted this, I feel comfortable writing about it! But I just felt so badly for Lynne, because I understand! My friend is like Jeanna and is just cool with everybody, but some of the other girls acted like Tamra and Vicki.

In addition to all that, one of my other bridesmaids and my "best" friend hasn't spoken to me in 6 weeks! The crazy part? I'm not upset! I actually feel much more relaxed. Like a weight has been lifted. She was putting a lot of pressure on me to maintain a level of friendship she was not willing to give. Perhaps we weren't really best friends after all?

Maybe 2009 is a time for me to "clean house". I know that's strange to say, but I have some great friends in my life. People who I am so grateful to be able to call friends! Why should I allow other "friends" make me unhappy? I'd rather work on nurturing my good friendships. But what to do about the wedding? Have any of you gone through something like this? Its almost like a cleanse for my life! Thanks goodness sometimes of all my "bloggy friends"!

My Thoughts

I love the real Housewives of Orange County! I know some people (B included) think that this show is trash, and it probably is, but I still love it! I thought I'd comment on a few things I've observed over the past season. Please excuse me if I'm a little judgemental...but isn't that the point of trash tv???

1. The O.C. housewives are by far the least ridiculous of the three casts so far. I could barely watch the Atlanta season! This, coming a girl who will watch my DVR'd episodes of every O.C. and N.Y.C. episode and then watch the reruns when they're on live! I'm an addict, I know. I wonder if they is a R.H.O.C.A. available? "Hi, I'm Princess Freckles, and I'm an addict." Atlanta was difficult to watch, because I kept finding myself feeling embarrassed for the cast! The N.Y.C. girls were much better, but Ramona? Pure trash. Alex? Embarrassing to watch! I liked the other three a lot though!



2. Tamra is the funniest lady on the show! I know she is a little racy with her humor, but I find her to be funny and (almost) real! She reminds me of some of the wives I know in Birmingham. Lots of money, but not always the best judgement, if you get my drift. Still, she is adorable, and fun to watch!



3. Jeana is and has always been my favorite housewife! She is super cool. She almost reminds me of my step mom. Just pretty calm all the time, but likes to have a good time. She doesn't let people walk all over her, and I think she seems to be a good
mother. We'll see when Colton (sp?) is in college....



4. Vicki needs a xnayx and a facial! I'm sorry, I know I'm being caddy, but seriously! Chill! Stop acting like you're running the free world, typing typing typing! Lady, you run an insurance company. Yes, I believe that you're a busy bee, but hire someone to help you if you're so swamped that you're forced to be rude to your friends while in the car and at the spa and you've
basically alienated your husband to the extent that you're not even sure he enjoys spending time with you anymore! Don't get me wrong, I like Vicki! She's one of the original three. She just needs to realize that she isn't Condoleezza Rice, she's an insurance saleswoman!



5. Lori! Lori! Lori! Umm, this chick won the lottery! George may be slightly goofy and sort of actually look like goofy, but he's so loving to her and such a doll! I'm dying to see what's going on with Josh this season! I think Lori has a great heart, and I can see that she is actually being a better parent now that she's with George. She wasn't ever going to be a career woman, for heaven's sake! Once she found her love, she is able to focus on raising her kids. Perhaps Sophia and her step siblings will turn out to be a little bit more grounded than Ashley and Josh? I hope so, for Lori's sake!



6. Gretchen is ummmm beautiful? Yes, that' the word! We'll see.....She seems ok. I like that she stood up to Vicki! I like that she is trying to get a Harley. I like that her fiance is from Detroit. I like that she didn't bolt when he got sick. But, the verdict is still out on her right now.







I miss Jo! I miss Tammy and her kids! I don't miss Quinn and her pseudo religious beliefs. Hello? If you're born again, you can't go sleeping around with 26 year old men!!!! Wow, did she rub me the wrong way!

Anyway, I sometimes wonder why I relate to this crazy ladies so much? Am I shallow? Or do I just wish I lived in Southern California? It is 28 degrees out today in Michigan!!!